What I Treat
Fear of Spiders
It is remarkable that estimates of 50% of all women and 10% of men suffer with the fear of spiders, Arachnophobia. One of the first questions i am asked at social functions is “ can you cure my fear of spiders”. My answer is always the same, yes I can because it is something I regular help clients to achieve. If you are scared of spiders now then you won’t be after several sessions with me, often just one session is all it takes.
Unfortunately due to how common a phobia it has become, people may not realise how truly terrifying an encounter with a spider leaves a sufferer feeling. Symptoms during an encounter or even the mention of a spider may include
- muscles shakes
- tightness in the chest
- shortness of breath
- uncontrollable panic.
Furthermore the lengths sufferers will go to in order to ensure they feel protected include constant checking in the bathroom, under the bed, cleaning around the home, reluctance at staying in a hotel or unfamiliar place, the list could go on. Those with this phobia more than anyone else know this behaviour is completely irrational but what else can they do. With all the giant leaps in medical science we still await a cure for fear of spiders in the form of a little pill. If you ask a person with a fear of spiders how did it all start the chances are they won’t have any idea. The reply i receive the most is
“ I just do “.
Hypnotherapy for fear of Spiders
It is our subconscious that hold the reasons. Like a treasure chest it stores all our fears but unfortunately our conscious way of thinking has no key to find the answer. However this is where a skilled hypnotherapist will work directly with the subconscious discovering what the it has stored and then changing its beliefs, habits and behaviours for good. Just image no more checking under beds, in bathrooms, no more constant cleaning and checking. Free to live a more relaxed and happier life.
The fear of being confined in a small place, or one with no clear exit is known as Claustrophobia. This fear affected my mother for many years until I helped her to finally overcome her anxieties using hypnotherapy. For those suffering with claustrophobia symptoms include but are not limited to
- choking sensation
- loss of breath
- loss of certain muscular function
- increase / decrease in body temperature
- feeling helpless or lost
It is estimated over 10% of the population suffer with the fear of being enclosed and trapped. Some of the triggers for such symptoms include
- car washes
- being underground
- shopping centres
With so many triggers it is little wonder how debilitating this phobia can be. Long term sufferers are used to planning in advance their whole lives via the same daily routine which can often mean they feel the need to remove themselves from work and everyday social situations. This in turn leads to lower self esteem and confidence issues. Like so many phobias, claustrophobia is a learned behaviour. The fear of feeling trapped is commonly linked with childhood experiences, maybe becoming trapped in a room or lift, getting lost while out, sudden turbulence while on a plane. These are just some of the experiences people attribute for their claustrophobia.
Other reasons such as growing up in an environment where others had this phobia. Through childhood it simply became a learned pattern of behaviour. We learn from those closest to us in our formative years and our subconscious does not discriminate what it learns, it just takes in everything through our 5 senses.
Hypnotherapy for Claustrophobia
Planning your life on a daily basis and other avoidance techniques can become a thing of the past. Hypnotherapy for fear of small places has worked remarkably quickly and easily for many years now. In just several sessions your subconscious can be reprogrammed to the way you want to act and feel. Those triggers that affected your life for so long can now become that which they try are, normal everyday experiences that no longer cause you anxiety or stress.
Bruxism is the term used for those who grind their teeth which affects over 10% of the population. Most of those suffering with this issue do so at an unconscious level and for that reason hypnotherapy for bruxism is highly effective. Grinding teeth and jaw clenching can be attributed to stress and anxiety. These two issues in themselves are something which hypnotherapy and other therapies I use respond well too.
Bruxism can occur in either an awake or sleep state. Awake bruxism is primarily jaw clenching in reaction to certain triggers that we find stressful or leave us feeling anxious.
Sleep bruxism involves both jaw clenching and teeth grinding and as the term suggestions happens while we sleep.
Sleep bruxism can also be due to
- recreational drug taking
- current prescribed medicine
- depression and anxiety
It is a fact that 70% of sleep bruxism has been found to be stress related. Left untreated bruxism can cause both short and long term damage to your health including
- sleep disturbance
- ear aches
- facial muscular tension
- tooth wear
- joint disorder
The majority of both forms of bruxism cases are as a consequence of stress and anxiety.
Hypnotherapy for Bruxism
If it is something you are not consciously aware of my therapies can help you to determine the causes of this stress,and from here we can move forward to use the best therapy to suit you. You can learn several relaxation techniques that I teach that are simple processes to help you during those stressful periods in your life. Many of my clients report back on how effective and easy to use these techniques are. Perhaps you are to embarrassed to reveal personal information that you believe causes your bruxism. This no longer matters due to the therapy I use called BWRT. Any worse memories or feeling you have can be changed for good without the need to divulge sensitive information to me. Working using hypnotherapy we can change what the subconscious believes to be anxious to us, in to something that will leave you feeling calm, relaxed, happy and confident in your every day life.
Hypnotherapy for Pain Management
The use of hypnotherapy for pain management has been applied successfully for centuries now. In more modern times hypno birthing has proven more popular year upon year. When consulting with clients who want me to help them with their pain I always ask them to first consult their doctor before I see them. Pain is the bodies way of telling you something is wrong, always listen to your body. I believe their can be a place for hypnotherapy along side traditional medicine in order to manage pain.
In essence there are two types of pain
acute – short term through an accident perhaps or onset of a medical condition
chronic – long term as part of an on going medical condition or condition as yet unknown, or as a result of injuries sustained from an accident
Pain can often be brought on by a single or multiple of triggers that we find stressful or leave us feeling anxious. Identifying these is the first step in helping to alleviate persistent pain. Just the thought of worrying about your pain or anticipating its effects can perceive it to feel worse. Painful conditions such as Fibromyalgia and cluster headaches respond well to hypnotherapy. Sufferers of these conditions can identify with the following symptoms
- muscle fatigue
- sensitivity to light and sound
- sense of woe
- low self esteem and confidence
Those suffering with long term pain often ask themselves “ why me ” and this can lead in to self identity issues. Many start to question who they have become and find it difficult to remember the kind of person they used to be. These thoughts can leave a person feeling vulnerable and lost. The support of family and friends therefore is hugely important. If you are currently living with long term pain then it is wise to seek the advice and comfort of support groups within the local community. Support groups can guide you in a variety of ways, whether it is learning more about help with your current job, or finding employment, or talking to other people suffering in pain who can relate and provide you with more information.
Hypnotherapy for Pain Management
Hypnotherapy for pain management can help with both acute and chronic pain. One method i teach to alleviate pain is teaching self hypnosis. Among other issues it can help with the discomfort of
- medical jabs
- dental treatment
- feelings of stress / anxiety
- feelings of low self esteem / confidence
Self hypnosis is powerful, effective, can be learned quickly and be used everyday for a variety of issues.
When seeking to resolve the issues of long term pain the first step is to uncover the psychological cause. When the reasons are identified then the alleviating of the psychological pain can inevitably lead to a reduction in the physiological pain suffered. Relaxation and stress management techniques can be learned in my sessions and they have benefitted many of my clients when applied.
You should first seek your doctors advice before consulting for my help with any pain issues.
Fear of Heights
A fear of heights, known as Acrophobia is not the same as Vertigo as is commonly thought. A fear of heights is a phobia that is very personal to me because I suffered with it for many years. It wasn’t until I had hypnotherapy that I learned to overcome this phobia. My new found confidence in dealing with situations that included heights is something my children appreciate as they now enjoy taking me on the larger rides at some of the countries amusement parks.
I was not alone in my fear of heights of course, it is something that affects more than 5% of the population. Sufferers are so acutely aware of their phobia that they have to plan much of their daily lives in order to distance themselves from the anxiety it can cause. Supermarkets with multi storeys, business meetings in upper levels of offices, family days out near cliffs or mountains, play rides of course, and even the plane journey and accommodation on holidays has to be taken in to account.
These are just some of the obstacles sufferers need to negotiate in order to stay in control.
Acrophobia is an anxiety disorder so the symptoms are much the same for those who come in to direct contact with their fears. These symptoms include but are in no way limited to
- dizzy spells
- increased sweating
- tightness in the chest area
- shortness of breath
- loss of clarity
These symptoms can be stressful enough but for those who work in industries that put them in direct contact with heights the potential consequences can be fatal. The fear of heights can sometimes be attributed to traumatic experiences during childhood. It could of occurred while climbing with friends or being trapped in a lift. May be the sufferer has a family member or close friend who is afraid of heights and so this fear has been learned, this is known as a conditioned response.
Hypnotherapy for Heights
Like many phobias and anxiety orders these conditioned responses have been stored in the subconscious. Other forms of therapy could help with these issues, however none as fast or long lasting as hypnotherapy. As a clinical hypnotherapist I work directly with your subconscious to uncover the reasons for this phobia because you can’t always consciously remember the reasons. Once the reasons have been found I then help you change the way you act when confronted with your phobia. The result is a calmer, more confident and happier person in dealing with heights or any other phobia for that matter. When using BWRT as a therapy you do not need to divulge personal or private information you find is embarrassing or awkward to discuss. In just several sessions, sometimes even one you can overcome fears and phobias for life.
Fear of the Dentist
The fear of the Dentist, known as dental phobia, dentophobia or dental anxiety, is one of the more common phobias that I help clients to overcome. This issue is far more common than many people realise and it has been reported to affect one in four people in the UK. The reasons for dental phobia can vary but may include a negative past experience during a dental visit which could have included
- experiencing physical pain during a procedure,
- perhaps overhearing or being directly involved with the dentist or nurse making negative comments that hurt you psychologically,
- family members or friends own fears being passed on to your beliefs and imagination
However the media can also have a part to play in how we perceive trips to the dentist. Newspaper articles, television programs and films portray the visit to the dentist as a nightmare episode dreaded by us all. For those who suffer this phobia the nightmare is very real indeed. Symptoms of a visit or even receiving a dental letter through the post can include
- sweaty palms
- loss of focus
- muscular tension
For many however the fear is too great which means some sufferers have not had a dental appointment for years. The likelihood of foregoing such an important health check up can lead to preventative measures being missed such as
- bad breath
- constant pain
- gum disease
- tooth decay
It can affect ones self esteem and how they see themselves engaging with others. When confidence slowly diminishes it can lead to social implications. Sufferers may become withdrawn from engaging with groups including family and friends, social functions, work groups.
Hypnotherapy for dental phobia
Hypnotherapy is remarkably fast and effective with most phobias and this includes dental phobia and the anxiety associated with it. Perhaps you are not consciously aware of when and how your dental fear stems from but it is a fact that you subconscious mind holds the key. As a clinical hypnotherapist I work directly with the subconscious beliefs that create so much anxiety and stress. Once we uncover the reasons we can completely remove these limiting and negative beliefs for good. When we have done this in just the several sessions it will take, you will be able to visit the dentist feeling calm, relaxed and confident.
Fear of Flying
Hypnotherapy for Fear of Flying
The fear of flying is known as Aerophobia and is thought to affect one in ten people in the UK, although many reports suggest this figure is far higher. Although proven to be among the safest forms of travel, those suffering with the fear of flying find little comfort in this statistic. In fact since 9/11 peoples perception is that air travel is far more dangerous.
As with many phobias the fear of flying is an issue that has been learned. It is possible that a loved one passed on their own fears of flying in to your subconscious, or that you had an unsettled experience on a plane or during your time in the airport itself. Think back to a time when you may have travelled on the same flight as a nervous passenger. Perhaps there words or actions made a deep impression on you, maybe more than you realise.
For some passengers it is the lack of control they have during the flight that leaves them feeling fearful and completely helpless. This fear is part of our ancestral memory which is hardwired in to our brains forming the fight, flight, freeze response. Fear of flying can also be linked to the fear of heights and also to claustrophobia. Ultimately sufferers worst fears are of the plane crashing.
Symptoms of aerophobia can include
- sweaty palms
- tightness in the chest
- lack of control
- muscle tension
To alleviate these symptom sufferers will often drink alcohol which can inevitably compound matters. Other methods of dealing with this phobia include bottling in all those symptoms for fear of embarrassment or fear of being ridiculed. Such actions can lead to panic attacks.
Hypnotherapy for fear of flying
Hypnotherapy works quickly for overcoming the fear of flying. Other therapies I have used with incredible results include BWRT. Nobody was born with the fear of flying, it has been learned. Using hypnotherapy we can explore the subconscious reasoning behind this fear and completely change its beliefs and habits. Once we do this then the only habit that will remain is the one of you confidently and calmly travelling through the airport and on the plane. See the testimonial page where I helped a client of his fear of flying that had persisted for more than 20 years. His fear of flying was resolved in just 50 minutes.
Hypnotherapy for Anger management
Lets be honest, who hasn’t felt angry at some point in their lives. After all it is only natural to feel this way with so many potential triggers in our lives. Work issues, relationships, health, fitness,money worries,self doubt, envy, lack of opportunities, education, feeling misunderstood, the list is endless because the triggers depend on the person and how they relate to them.
The feeling of anger is part of our ancestral make up. The adrenalin that pumps throughout our body was as a consequence to preparing ourselves for battle or to flee. This is the fight, flight or freeze response and ultimately helped us to succeed in the most important aspect in our lives, survival. In todays world however displaying these responses are not always appropriate and so we bottle them up over time.
Many people channel their anger to achieve success in work or personal related goals. For others however there comes a point where the bottled anger manifests itself which can lead to a variety of conflict. The following is a list of different forms of anger.
volatile anger damaging to those closest in your life, violent outburst displayed emotionally and physically
chronic damaging to long term mental health, weakening of the immune system, prolonger periods of anger
overwhelmed when things just get to much for you to deal with
passive often expressed in personal relationships
judgemental a feeling of resentment reserved especially towards those that love us
self inflicted often due to low self esteem and feelings of guilt. This can lead to poor mental health and self harm.
If you have experienced these or have ongoing anger issues like the ones stated please give me a call for your free phone consultation.
It is not just the psychological issues that become apparent. Anger can affect us physiologically also. Issues left unresolved may lead to
- colds / flu
- stomach complaints
- high blood pressure
Those with anger issues are often not aware of the reasoning behind it. Only after the damage has been done do they realise that yet again possible deep rooted issues have bubbled to the surface and produced emotional or physical pain. Some times the issue stems from childhood, growing up in a family where parents are verbally and physically abusive to one another. When we are young our minds are still forming and we are not yet at a stage where we discriminate what is right and wrong. In essence we learn that abusive in the household is a form of love to be learned from and adopted as we form adult relationships. These relationships built on anger and abuse are known as destructive security. The issue may not have started in childhood, perhaps there are a number of stresses and strains compounding a particular issue. Feelings of vulnerability, treated unjustly, misunderstood, the list can go on.
If you can relate to the following then maybe i can help
- constant argueing
- damaging property
- unable to express your emotions
- violence towards family, friends, animals
- feelings of despair or helplessness
Hypnotherapy for anger issues
Together we will explore your past experiences and your current life to learn about your core identity and beliefs. We will look at the triggers in your life and working directly with the subconscious to realign and adjust these issues once and for all. After just several sessions you will wonder how and why you were once so angry and now only feel relaxed and eager to enjoy all aspects of your life. This means a more positive you in the work place, at home, in relationships and ultimately yourself.
Fear of Public Speaking
We seem to spend more time communicating and less time talking with new technology. With the introduction of the mobile phone, texting, email, WhatsApp, Twitter, Instagram Facebook it has never been easier to communicate. However what they all achieve is the security and safety to talk to many in the privacy of comfortable and familier surroundings.
The fear of public speaking , known as Glossophobia, stems from social anxiety. Ultimately it is the fear of being judged. Add self doubt to the mix and you have a powerful cocktail of symptoms which can include
- tightness in the chest
- dry mouth
The imagination has a big role to play in this anxiety. The subconscious stores our imagination as well as our beliefs. If we use this imagination to concentrate on all the negative aspects visualised before giving the speech then we will believe it to be true. The saying be careful what you wish for springs to mind. It is not only social functions that can cause social anxiety. Think of
- attending interviews
- talking to shop assistants
- asking for directions
If you have experienced negative issues in the past during social situations then your mind will allow you to think this will automatically happen in the future.
Hypnotherapy for fear of public speaking
Hypnotherapy for fear of public speaking is quick and simple. If you can focus on negativity then you can focus on positivity. Hypnotherapy guides you through relaxation and enables you to think of how you want things to be. If you imagine yourself standing confidently and speaking with calmness and at ease throughout the speech then this is what will be achieved. With just a little guidance from a clinical hypnotherapist those previous negative feelings and perceptions will quickly fade. You can now experience calmness, confidence and a new assuredness whatever the social situation may be.
Hypnotherapy for Exams
We all have many mutual experiences in life. The food we eat, places travelled, people we know, but how about the experiences that we sometimes had no choice but becoming mutually linked. Im talking about the dreaded exam experience. At some point in our lives we have taken some or all of the following exams / tests
- primary school
- secondary school
- driving – theory / practical
Maybe we haven’t taken all of those exams but we can all relate to the symptoms attached to them. Just an email or letter through the post is enough to spark feelings of
- sweaty palms
- tightness in the chest
- butterflies in our stomach
- muscle fatigue
For some people they use these feelings to drive and motivate them to success, for many these feelings of anxiety all to often inhibit performance and scupper the goals we seek. Not knowing how to deal with these emotions can form a vicious circle of anxiety, low confidence and self doubt that can consequently impact on other areas of in our lives.The simple fact is that in today world, society judges us by our results. These results are based via exams, tests and social expectation. For example we are all expected to have gained qualifications from college and university. We are expected to travel using our cars because everyone has passed there driving test haven’t they.
Hypnotherapy for exams
I use several methods to help you overcome your exam fears. Using hypnotherapy for exam or test fears can help boost your confidence, self esteem and concentration levels. In just several sessions the triggers that caused you anxiety will be permanently removed. We simply use visualisation and suggestion work to get your subconscious on the right track. Instead of nerves and self doubt you will only experience the feelings you would rather experience, which is very often complete calm, relaxation and confidence.
Hypnotherapy for Depression
Several years ago I was diagnosed with severe depression. One day I felt fine and the next i didn’t want to get out of bed. Family and friends all asked what was wrong with me, a perfectly natural question of course. But for those suffering with depression the answer is far from easy to explain. The simple fact was I didn’t know what was wrong with me, i couldn’t find an answer, nothing to put my finger on. I only knew that i had no energy, I was mentally fatigued and my overriding attitude was I just couldn’t be bothered.
It is such a frustrating time for everyone directly and indirectly involved with depression. Loved ones just want to help, to find a way of raising your spirits and getting you back into the world again. But if you suffer with depression you simply don’t know what can help because you don’t always know what the issue is or where it came from or how long it will last. Personally I found some comfort in going for a walk, ever so brief of course. My whole life revolved getting out of bed in the late afternoon and watching television, eating, sleeping repeating. I felt so isolated, fed up of knowing each day was being lost and I was gradually being left behind. Ultimately I felt like I didn’t belong and that I was different to everyone else. Several years later I now embrace being different. I am special, unique, I don’t want to be like everyone else, I’m Michael Pulman!
Before I continue with how I found my zest for life lets talk about the signs of depression. If you suffer with the following symptoms constantly over a two week period or more then please make an appointment to speak with your doctor.
- irritable, restless
- loss of interest in most normal activities
- anxious, sad, feeling alone
- thoughts of suicide
- guilt, helplessness
- lower self esteem
- losing focus, lack of concentration
- low libido
- lack of sleep or over sleeping
- constantly tired
- lack of appetite, over eating
- low energy
Add to these symptoms social factors such as
- avoiding work, university, college, school
- making excuses not to see family and friends
- dropping out of your usual social engagements, the gym, recreational activities, social clubs etc
Please contact your doctor if you suffer with any of those symptoms for two weeks or more.I know from experience its tough making that initial call. At the time of my depression I felt I wasn’t a real man, I felt weak and silly, that people wouldn’t care or understand. I was wrong! My doctor was patient and understanding. My family were supportive and caring. Talking about your feelings is a hugely positive and progressive step forward. Don’t suffer in silence.
Hypnotherapy for Depression
Back to my story. My doctor prescribed me medication and group counselling. I duly took the prescribed pills and started the group sessions over a three month period. At that time I felt no better, no worse. Still to this day I don’t know what made me do it but I searched on the internet about complementary medicines. It was there that I learned about hypnotherapy. With the guidance of a professional hypnotherapist I went deep into my subconscious and found the reasons for my depression. It allowed me to ask questions and over the course of several months I found the answers. Hypnotherapy needs no medication or group counselling, although for many this form of action can help many people. I learned that within my mind I actually knew why I was depressed and it gave me all the tools I needed to leave that big black cloud for good.
My sessions are one to one and held in the strictest of confidence. Talk to a therapist who can relate, understand and empathise with you. Consultations are free.